Acceptance and I are new acquaintances. For many years, I couldn’t see its beauty. I thought it equalled resignation: sitting on the couch, hunched into my shoulders, and slowly shaking my head in a sad, Eeyore-type way. But acceptance is an active and dynamic force. It precedes and provokes change. For many years, I’ve been familiar with psychologist Carl Rogers’s contention that: ‘When I accept myself as I am, then I can change’. But I still found self-acceptance tough. In a … [Read more...] about Acceptance is a beautiful thing
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Love: how to love ourselves more
According to the Troggs, 'love is all around'. So how come we're not very good at loving ourselves, never mind loving ourselves more? As someone who’s experienced some of those ‘slings and arrows of outrageous fortune’ that Hamlet harped on about, I may now have a partial answer. Without getting too far into a forensic analysis that can only lead us up our own backside, I think there are probably at least two main reasons: 1 We think to love ourselves is to be selfish, but this is to … [Read more...] about Love: how to love ourselves more